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It was Saturday, January 31st. All I wanted him to do was help me load a heavy chair from my garage into a borrowed truck. Simple. I was 45; he had just turned 29. The following Friday we decided to get married and did so three weeks later, exactly four weeks after that fateful Saturday when my life changed forever.

On February 28, 2013, we celebrated our 26th anniversary. He still thinks I’m eye candy and I still think he’s the sexiest, most wonderful man in the world.

I know exactly what I did to go from twice-divorced and miserable to meeting the man of my dreams in a few short weeks. What I did is the subject of this blog and my book, “Ten Weeks to Love.”


Jack and Me!

As I originally mentioned in March of this year, it may not sound glamorous, but making sure your relationships are workable is not only essential to having great relationships, it is what makes it possible to have fun and excitement!

Being interviewed by Jack Canfield at his estate in Santa Barbara. Truly an amazing and wonderful man–so giving of himself and his knowledge. So willing to help others.

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Relationships, Connections, and Communication

When my son Josh was a year old (he’s now 45), I was working on a Saturday so I had my mother babysit. The “plan” was for me to pick him up at 3pm from her house later that day, all of which I explained to Josh before I left for work.

(Even then, I believed strongly that it was important to communicate with Josh as I would an adult; he might not understand the words, but I knew from prior experience, that he definitely understood the intention and concepts.)

Pearl and Lorelei (two/four), Josh’s youngest daughters. It was a huge compliment when he said that he had remembered the principles on which I raised him, and that he was raising his girls in similar fashion! He has always talked to them with the same respect that he afforded an adult. With each passing year (they’re now 10 and 12), they grow more lovely in spirit and intelligence—and with more confidence—which I attribute largely to the quality of communication with which they are being raised.

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Elizabeth Smart and the NFL

T-shirt imageOn October 2, 2014, Elizabeth Smart—the young lady abducted from her home in Utah at 14 and rescued nine months later—spoke at the YWCA Empowering Women Luncheon in Rochester, New York.

As expected, her talk was compelling and emotionally gripping. But a comment she made was of particular interest to me, because it’s about a subject that I’ve been mulling over off and on for many years, recently brought to light with all the media attention given to domestic violence on the part of a few NFL players.

My new shirt, message and campaign! No matter how much airtime is given to toxic relationships, there are still more of the healthy, happy kind out there!

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Pleased to Meet You!

sarahHi!  My name’s Sarah, and I’ve known Tanii since October of 2003 when we met while I was working for a home repair company.  Tanii called in to place a work order to repair a fence, and when she happened to mention that she had horses (magic word!) I basically invited myself over to meet her and the “herd.”

I’ve always had long hair, and a couple of years ago I decided to take the plunge and chop it off!  It was liberating, to say the least.

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Sarah the Wonderful!

Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, both personal and professional. But for all the different ways in which we interact with others, all truly great relationships have some things in common.

When Charley and I decided to hire our friend and extended family member, Sarah Carman, as my personal assistant, it was our most fervent hope that our working relationship would be as great and enduring as the personal relationship we had enjoyed for over ten years.

We were not disappointed!

Horse and animal lover, Sarah, is that strong and gentle soul, who is also articulate when expressing deep-seated opinions yet tolerant and genuinely interested in the opinions and viewpoints of others. What a treat that our schedules, lives and needs converged! Here she is with our beloved horse, Refinado (Ref), in his 30s at the time this photo was taken. Can you feel the love?

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