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Abuse and Violence Against Women – Are “Good” People Creating It?

This past Sunday, March 8th, was International Women’s Day, a global celebration of respect, appreciation and love towards women as well as a celebration for women’s economic, political and social achievements. Sadly, it is also a sobering reminder of how many women throughout the world are victims of violence and abuse which, in my view, has only escalated over time (or maybe we’re just hearing about it more).

Domestic violence

The holiday gave me pause to consider what the origins of such abusive behavior might be. Are there baby steps that lead to overt abuse; or does a person go from loving and respecting a woman to abusing her in one giant step? More importantly, what can be done to halt and even reverse the downward spiral?

Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

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Off-Road Adventures!

Due to Charley’s hectic work schedule, we don’t have much chance to “get outta Dodge.” But our new Range Rover provided us with a great excuse to get up to Carmel by the Sea, four hours from our home in Southern California. We bought the Rover specifically for its off-road capabilities to accommodate Charley’s love of photography (he was a pro photographer for many years before we met). Landscapes is one of his specialties so we really needed a car that would safely take him to roads less traveled.



Seems that there are only three Land Rover training locations in the U.S. and the only one west of the Mississippi is in—you guessed it—Carmel! Which happens also to be the home of my wonderful brother Mark and his lovely wife Barbara, whom we visit whenever we get the chance.



Land Rover is the parent company, Range Rover being one of its models. Here we are after our Experience, none the worse for wear and happy, happy, happy!

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International Radio Personality?

Perhaps! Today I did the second radio show with Natassja “Lady NV” Bynoe. Her show originates in Barbados, but has an audience in Africa and Europe, a combination of lively music (I heard reggae in the background today) sprinkled with talk. As before, we had fun! Plus, she sent us a photo of her reading my book as her dog sat on her lap! (She told me today that in her town, her dog gets recognized more than she does!) I guess it went well today because I’ll be on again next week! Thanks, Natassja!

natassjaI also did an interview with Phil Hulett & Friends this week, based in Southern California. It was short but fast-paced and I really like these guys! You can check out Phil, his friends, and show at:

Both these shows were on how to recover from relationship hell (been there, done that—not going to do that again…ever)!

Natassja “Lady NV” Bynoe and her adorable pooch!  I wonder if they’re both reading my book! 

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Our 28th on the 28th

This past Saturday, February 28th, Charley and I celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary! The time has gone by so quickly, mostly noticeable by how much the kids and grandkids have grown. Simon and Amy were only four and two when we got married; and Josh, just 18. Now they’re all grown up and leading productive, plentiful lives of their own with their own families and friends. Charley and I are truly blessed.


Both of us had work commitments last Saturday—at least up until noon. Then we took off, driving around old, familiar neighborhoods in Santa Clarita, all the while talking about how we were going to create our lives from this point forward. How we’re going to fulfill as yet unfulfilled goals and dreams, recommitting ourselves to supporting each other’s games and passions!

Kissing our way to New Mexico on a road trip in December to visit our son and his family!

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Soulmate or Soulmates?

I did a radio show last Saturday morning. We had a great time! One of the questions that came up was did I believe that a person has only one soulmate or more? Great question!


Just as we have several or many good and even “best” friends throughout a lifetime, I believe a person can have more than one soulmate—someone with whom we share a profoundly close connection on many levels; someone who knows us without having to know a lot about us; someone committed to our happiness and fulfillment and who takes joy in our accomplishments, large and small; someone with whom we take comfort physically—after all, love relationships are different and beyond being friends!


My horses, Bazan and Miata.  I don’t know that they are soulmates, but they are most definitely best friends!

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