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Planning Divorce, continued…
It really does sound negative to say couples should plan for divorce. I totally get it! So let me explain further.
Per the 1975 Edition of the World Book Dictionary, the verb “plan” is “1. to think out beforehand how (something) is to be made or done…” We could just as easily say we are planning for failure, with divorce being at the tail end of failure for a marriage. Either way, facing the sometimes awful reality that even the best relationships can sometimes end, it behooves us to face the possibility and deal with it before the even unlikely event of it actually happening. I again refer to the lifeboat example.
Son Josh with his fiancé Marina from Moscow. This is a beautiful couple in every way: smart, loving, respectful, fun. They are a great team!
Talking Divorce Before the Wedding Could Save the Marriage!
I know, “What the hell is she talking about?! How on earth could talking about divorce, especially before the wedding, possibly save a marriage?!”
When you go on a cruise, one of the first things the ship’s Captain has you do is lifeboat drills. No one really expects their cruise ship to sink, but knowing what to do beforehand, lets everyone sleep better and enjoy the cruise without the added stress of “what happens if…?”
Me and my main squeeze last year. On February 28, 2017, we celebrated our 31st anniversary. He still calls me his “trophy wife!” OMG!
Jack Canfield (“Chicken Soup for the Soul”) Likes My Book!!
Jack Canfield is the co-author of the mega-bestselling series of books, Chicken Soup for the Soul. He is also an internationally-recognized motivational speaker and consultant. Here is what Jack had to say about Ten Weeks to Love:
“When I was growing up, we didn’t have a class called ‘Love 101.’ If we had, this book would have been required reading!”
Me with Jack at his estate in Santa Barbara, California in December 2014 where I met many talented and inspiring writers and authors. We were all learning “from the master,” and learn we did! Jack is a truly caring individual. He was warm and gave us all insights to last a lifetime!
Great Love Debate, Newport Beach!
Last Wednesday, March 25th, I had the great pleasure of being on a panel of relationship and dating experts and coaches talking to over 100 single men and women to answer the question, “Why are we still single?”
The concept—of bringing single men and women together to ask THEIR questions of the panel of experts—was the brainchild of Elizabeth Castillo, Executive Producer and Brian Howie, Producer and Host of the Great Love Debate brand (www.greatlovedebate.com). Last year—their first—they did over 50 events throughout the U.S. and Canada! A lot of work, but the concept has rapidly gained in popularity everywhere they go!
Producer and host, Brian Howie!
Breaking Up is Hard to Do!
Even when it’s the right thing to do.
My second marriage ended with my husband forcing me out of our home. He didn’t physically push me out the door. Instead he said such demeaning and disparaging things to me that leaving was the only choice if I was to retain what small amount of self-respect I still had. So with great bravado and anger (“I’ll show you!” sprinkled with a few cuss words), I stormed out taking with me what few possessions I could fit in my small car.
When I came back the next day to try to fix things—for the umpteenth time—I discovered that he had had all the locks changed and moved his girlfriend into “my” house! Devastated doesn’t begin to reflect how I felt. Several months later, he told me—somewhat tearfully—that I was better off without him in my life and that forcing me out was, in his view, the best thing he could have done for me. How sweet! Though not feeling very gracious about his considerate actions on my behalf, I came to realize that he was absolutely right!
Arguing… not fun!