Love and Hate

It’s only a matter of time before I will be hated, even reviled. Why? Because I’m happy, positive, cheerful and, dare I say, “peppy!”

Yesterday I saw an article on the front page of my browser about all the hate being leveled at actress Anne Hathaway. It seems that she’s just too “peppy,” upbeat, positive and nice for some people with nothing better to do than tear others down so they can feel better about themselves.

Wipe that smile off your face, sailor! OMG! I’ve had that coat 20 years! And what’s up with that hair!?

I believe in freedom of speech. But what does it say about the state of our society, our culture, that we feel compelled to spotlight people who have nothing better to do than to criticize others for being happy?

There is an old adage that is disingenuous to teachers: “Those that can, do; those that’s can’t, teach.” What a sham! (Yes, I do mean sham–something false intended to appear genuine or true–although shame would work just as well.)

Instead of denigrating our teachers (and then criticizing them for poor performance in the classroom—like that’s fair), how about this: Those that can, do; those that can’t, criticize.

It is virtually impossible to have a lasting and loving relationship when one person is intent upon lifting up and the other is intent on tearing down. It’s one-sided at best. And one-sided–no matter how  long lasting—is not my definition of a great relationship wherein both parties emerge winners!

So if you’re looking for a great relationship—one that lasts a lifetime—don’t think you’re going to find it with a “bad boy,” or “bitch.” Ain’t gonna happen! It’s a bad game with only losers at the end. Don’t go there!

Look for nice, upbeat, positive, friendly…..peppy! (I might steer away from guys that are too peppy, but all the other adjectives happen to fit my husband who is also brilliant, funny, sexy, inspiring, interesting, and never boring.)

Remember that other post about “real estate” (Relationships that Work)? What you get out of your investment of time and effort depends on how wisely you chose your life partner at the start. A bad investment will show up eventually; it’s only a matter of time!

Yours in love,

Tanii